As women facing the challenges of day-to-day life, being stressed has become our normal. We work, try to take care of ourselves, take care of our family whilst growing our businesses, and when we turn to social media, all we see are individuals living picture-esque lives and compare our lives to theirs feeling inadequate.
If you have experienced this, here are ten strategies you can implement to develop a relaxed lifestyle.
1. Drop the Guilt
Ladies, the first step towards a happier life is dropping the guilt. You aren’t perfect – no one is – and you don’t need to apologise. When you realise this life becomes much more beautiful and a lot less stressed as we start letting go of unrealistic expectations.
2. Balancing Work and Play
As women, we tend to become workaholics and let our work splash over into our personal lives. When we do this, relaxation becomes an impossibility. We recommend letting work stay at the office, and home life remain at the house. What boundaries can you implement? Do you turn off your phone at a certain time? Do you need to write a list before you finish for the day so you know where to start the following day? What will help you feel less stressed when you finish work?
3. Avoid Buildup
Do you let things build up throughout the week, only to take care of those issues on Sunday night? Millions of women around the globe fall into this pattern and create unneeded anxiety in their lives. Here is a list of recommendations we have to create a relaxed lifestyle:
Clean as you go – Sounds Simple, if you follow this rule you will have less overwhelm and less to clean at the end of the week.
Do the top 3 things that need to be done straight away each day this stops procrastination and have a feeling of achievement
Outsource the things that you don’t like doing or aren’t your jam.
4. Devote Time to Things That Matter
Women, being the natural healers they are, tend to tackle multiple challenges at once. If you want to reduce your stress and anxiety, double-down your efforts on the areas that truly matter and disregard the rest. Although this may feel unnatural, it will help immensely!
5. Compassion Heals All
Being caring and loving when people make mistakes is something to behold. As women, our ability to love and nurture is unfathomable and awe-inspiring. Let that natural ability shine, and leave criticism and judgement at bay.
When we’re trying to develop a habit – getting in shape, learning a new skill, etc. – we tend to overwhelm ourselves. While these are worthy goals, devoting 15-minutes per day, every day, is better than 5 hours once a month. Be the tortoise, not the hare!
It is time to get rid of the clutter? Why not have a spring clean and take time out to get rid of items that you haven’t used in the last year. You can even minimalise your friend’s list, commitments and obligations that are taking up your time but are not fulfilling.
8. Do Things You Love
Do you have a hobby or interest that you can’t stop thinking about? You could be in the middle of an Excel spreadsheet, but your mind is elsewhere. If you have this burning desire in your heart, devote your free time to it.
9. Love Your Body
Although this sounds easier said than done, it’s essential. Loving your body is the first step towards a carefree and relaxed lifestyle. Who cares if you have cellulite or stretch marks? Millions of women also have those issues. Think about how blessed you are to have a body that allows you to walk on the earth, hands that allow you to create, arms that allow you to hug your loved ones (you get the gist). Remember we only have one body, so why not love it!
10. Ask for Help
As strong and bold women, we know how powerful and effective we can be. But there comes a time where we need to seek counsel from others for support. Knowing when to ask for a helping hand, and being brave enough to accept assistance, is imperative.
Sounds luxurious doesn’t it – where you have the ability to wake when you want, sleep when you want, do things around your work?
If you are someone who has worked from home for a long period of time, know that isn’t the truth. With millions of people losing their jobs or having to close their bricks and mortar business or offices, they have to pivot and make their spare room their new office where all the action happens.
Yet, if you are a mumpreneur, not only do you have your office at home, you will also have your kids at home too unless you are an essential worker. So, not only are you doing everything you can to manage your business and to keep it growing, but you also have to juggle homeschooling, feeding times, exercising the wildlings, and more.
Being experienced not only in working from home but also homeschooling for nearly 3 years, here are some tips on how to be more productive working from home.
1. Your Own Space
Find a space that you can make your own. It might be a table, corner of a room, a whole room if you are lucky, and create firm boundaries with your family about what your expectations, needs, and wants are for your space. Are they allowed to touch your computer, pencils, or that highlighter that they are eyeing off even though they have 10,000 other colouring in pens and pencils
2. Find Your Rhythm.
When do you work best? Is it at night after everyone is asleep or early in the morning before everyone wakes up?
I wake up around 5-5:30 each morning, do my morning practices then smash out my most important jobs, not only because I don’t have as much distraction, but also so I feel accomplished. How well does it feel when you get 2-3 big things off your to-do list ticked off? So create a schedule for work, play, and rest to make sure you don’t end up with burnout.
3. Be Intentional
Working from home can get a little tricky because it’s totally up to you to prioritise and organise yourself and your work. I like to have focused work time on different tasks. This means I have a dedicated time for answering emails, dedicated time for working on the magazine, dedicated time for my co-author book, dedicated time for brainstorming, this means that everything that is important gets time each day and doesn’t get lost or left behind. It also means I’m completely focused on one thing at a time, as I have found I have a better capacity to finish something rather than start different tasks/projects that don’t get completed.
Make sure to take time out for yourself away from the computer and to connect with your family.
From 7:00 am, I am in the kitchen with my family having breakfast, chatting, and getting everyone ready for our morning activity. Which for us is a morning run for my husband and daughter, whilst our other daughter and I ride our horses (check out the video below), and our son either runs or rides his motorbikes which we all do up the back of our property. For others, it might be exercising, playing outside or simply colouring in. Whatever it is, do it with your family to give them undivided attention. Remember to turn off your phone until you have finished.
5. Our Own Time
In our house, we have something called soul hour where we each have an hour to do what fills up our cup. For my son it will be playing the PS3 or watching a movie, my daughters love watching how-to videos on youtube, painting, playing with their dolls, as well as colouring in or playing a game. For me I love to read a book, paint, write, have a nap, watch an inspiring video, or listen to my latest audiobook.
6. Food for the soul
Make sure you have stocked up on healthy nutritious food and snacks to keep your energy flowing throughout the day. When you eat good food and drink good water you have more energy, focus, and attention. Have dedicated time for lunch which you can also create as time together with the family to talk about what everyone has been up to throughout the day and plan the afternoon.
7. Schedule time to be creative
Whether with your kids or by yourself allow yourself to be creative whether it is dancing, singing, painting, writing, crafting, and so on. Being creative helps you to become a better problem solver, helps you develop confidence within yourself and your ability as you grow your skills, gives you the opportunity to let go of control and allow flow into your day. I can’t tell you how giving myself permission to be creative has improved my mood, my business skills as well as giving me the opportunity to connect with my children through something that they love to do and isn’t a chore.
Let go of perfectionism.
8. Disconnect from Tech and connect to nature
Make getting outside a priority multiple times a day. We go for a family walk/run in the morning then we all get outside around 90mins of work. Not only do you get the goodness of the sun but also moving your body and being outside and getting the nurturing energy of mother nature (electromagnetic frequency) that has scientifically been proven to be highly beneficial for our wellbeing.
9. Know when to walk away
Whether it’s with work or kids there are going to be times when you feel overwhelmed and stressed. You aren’t a bad mother for losing your cool or feeling like giving up. If you feel that a situation is getting too much. Step back, breathe, and if need be walk away. Go and do something to help you reset and rebalance. I like to use Qoya Shaking for myself, meditating, going and sitting outside and deep breathing and patting my animals help me calm down so I can go back to what I was doing with a better frame of mind.
10. Be kind and compassionate to yourself and others.
Right now everyone is going through their own experience with the world’s current environment, including yourself. Coming from kindness and compassion will help you to navigate this time with more ease rather than getting into fear or reacting to people negatively. Their actions are reflections of their inner world. Imagine receiving kindness from someone when your world is falling apart imagine how that would feel?
11. Embrace this time
Regardless of whether you like isolation or not we all are experiencing it and all have to live with it. So instead of rage against it, we can embrace it and find positives whilst using this time to invest more resources into our wellbeing, personal, and professional development. We all have time, we just have to be willing to use it in a way that benefits us most.
So you have taken the step and started your own business. How exciting! I bet you are feeling a rush of different emotions right now. There is probably so much going on in your life. You are not only running a business but also running a household as well – superwoman right there!.
Have you ever heard the saying ‘there aren’t enough hours in a day’? This is a saying that rings true for Mumpreneurs all over the world. There just simply is not enough hours in the day to get everything done on your lists. Even though you have started your own business and have started it with the mindset that you will get more time at home with your family – it doesn’t always work out like this from the beginning. There will be times when it seems like you are giving all your attention to the business or the opposite and not giving the business the time it needs to become successful. You may start to feel like you are letting your family down because you are spending too much time trying to make the business successful.
This is where finding a work life balance is important. It is not only important for your business, but it is also important for your family. And most importantly it is important for your own mental and physical well being.
What is work life balance?
A work life balance is finding a way to be able to comfortably complete the different tasks that you have on hand. A way to be able to stop juggling the business and your family and start balancing them. A healthy work life balance is important as it ensure that you are giving the right time and energy to the right area during the scheduled time. It also means that you are putting yourself in a more stable and comfortable environment which will impact your mental and physical wellbeing.
A work life balance does not mean that you have to spend equal amounts of time on each part of your life. It simply means that you need to find a balance that gives all aspects of your life the time that they need and deserve. One part of your life may require more time and attention than another part. This does not mean it is unbalanced, it means you are balancing it properly.
How do I achieve it?
Achieving a work life balance can take a little bit of time to master in the beginning, especially if you are in the start up phase of your business. Take an afternoon on your own where you can be left alone and peaceful. During this time write out the different aspects of the business and the aspects of your life and list each aspect in its importance and how much it means to you.
Knowing all the things you have to do and having it all laid out on the table will help you to start creating your balancing plan. Having a balance between your work and life means that you are able to focus on the right areas of your life at the right time.
Why is it important?
A work life balance is important for a number of reasons. It helps to create an environment in your mind where you are focused and reduce the stress that you may be feeling. It helps with the drive of the business, because you know when you are going to be working on the business and you know that you have X amount of time to complete a certain task.
It is important for your personal life as it helps to give you back your own time. It provides you with time to spend with your family without having the business stress looming in the back of your mind.
Having a work life balance will help with your overall mental and emotional health and help to reduce stress and anxiety surrounding the number of things that you need to do.
Finding balance is important and something that every business owner should strive to do. It is not only important for you, but it is also important for your business and those around you. Id the people you spend time with can see that you are stressed and not able to give them your full attention then it can start to affect your relationships.
So take the time to look at your balance and how you can achieve it.